We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html. Along with random dirty videos from I dont know who and of course pics. I have been taken advantage of by a girl I love and we dont even have kids together. I met my wife while I was in recovery, I am an alcoholic. We had all the qualities of a functioning relationship. I would guess there was something bad in your background that this triggers.like maybe a parent walking out or something? Cater to him and perhaps that will show him that you are not selfish after all. She just seemed so volitile at the end. Idk how to get her to do that? He likes to feel needed but I can feel his distance at times and I know that I hurt him but he hurt me too in several ways and I have owned it. If it is someone fresh out of school, she or he will not have the expertise you need. I go home and try on all my formal outfits and find one that I can wear and that doesnt fit too badly. But dont chase him now take care of yourself first. Does he approach problems with more thought and care than before? She said a lot of little things added up between us and that she started compromising herself to be with me and we both ended up completely different people in a bad way. And he left and I never spoke to him until a couple of months ago on Facebook and when I spoke to him he seemed so angry all he kept saying was leave me alone dont talk to me, the day I left high school I never planned on talking to u again. It is possible for a person to change. I was so shocked & numb that I couldnt comprehend what I had stumbled on & desperately wanted clarification. The therapist will say that they didnt know better and did the best they could with the tools at their disposal which is true. I just found this website searching for links to help save my marriage. It ruined everything. Good luck!! I was upset that he went out with his friend who treated me really badly a few years ago. But u was no longer interested in the deal. I never cheated or anything.It just, during the past 3 years, I have been harsh on him with words to get him to be a better person. Well, you are right you did wrong. Im miserable here, feel so sad daily. But I love him I do, I devoted so much time money and energy into this and I of t want it to go to waste, he says he wants to show me how he would change he keeps asking me to come back there not realizing I would go crazy because you did things with her in the same bed and same room I would be in, I told him I cant I would be too uncomfortable I told him to come here and hes coming he spent 700+ to come here for four days to come see me to prove to me hes going to change and that this will never happen again but I dont know how hes going to do that I. No need for me to jump back in so quickly. There will be new things in the you that has experienced all this pain: guardedness, healing, and newfound respect. I let him have it when I found out that he had been doing that. When you get on a plane, they tell you, if youre traveling w a child and the O2 needs to come down, put it on yourself first or you will pass out and then you and the child will lose oxygen. I came back home, and we kind of worked things out. Now he doesnt want to restore our relationship & Im crushed because it feels like now that Ive put forth the effort to not only change myself but to change the downward spiral of my relationship, its too late. It was not helping my PP PTSD. After the last time we were intimate he told me he was going to try and date to get past this. Hey Marshall, I think you sound like a man who is truly dedicated to his wife. The end forimaturity and hurting her emotionally break in trust. He at first hid it for me for month and friends of our all knew about it and no one told me. Soon, my wifes traumatic childhood experiences really start coming to the surface and depression worsens, she starts seeing a therapist and taking medication. Being both adults having feelings, emotions I am in love with this man he is married children are grown. I am sorry I was not able to respond last year to your question. I have been with out my youngest daughter for 4 years and not my husband say he doesnt love me anymore he feel out of love with me , but is hard for me to accept that i can imagine the life with out them , I feel angry use and betrayed by him but i love him he wants to divorce now but i have been fighting back to get back into relationship with him to be with my daughter and him he say emotionaly he has no feelings for me no more and thas very painful . He got promoted then just then decided he only wanted to be friends. And you werent aware of the other side of the problem either you may have hurt a truly good and innocent person; you just really dont know. We can hurt a person who is vulnerable considerably more than a person who has her guard up all the time. It doesnt mean you cant see your boyfriend, but you should put marriage on hold. Its been over a month nownearly twohe continues to spend his weekends with her and maybe a night during the weekhe says he doesnt trust me and still thinks i cheatednothing i do seems to helphe doesnt know whether to stay or goand i want so much to fight for our marriage. Don't forget that you will live again and love again. For me its these small things that warm my heart. But he was the one ignoring me and the problems in our relationship and it seemed like the more I tried to love him the more he pushed me away. He says that he cant see the good qnd the turn-around Ive made now and he feels like he doesnt want to fix it because the damage has been done. I have cheated on this amazing creature not once but four times over the course of our relationship causing me to loose friends, loose his trust, and respect for myself as a human being. My friend recently told me that she felt bad that she felt great without me and wanted to eventually have a discussion with me (with time). Sorry about that.. Hi, Then she said she had to go we will talk more tomorrow. im full of anxiety because i feel i may have to make a decision once gain. I like the thought of being with someone else because I dont wanna be with a liar and a cheat. I got clean last time, this time is was sporadic use, and bloody stupid. But her condition in that house is not plessant. After talking it through a lot, I decided to give it a second go. I wonder if he can ever fall in love with me again. My husband was very supportive and did everything a good husband could do. He immediately changed again asking me to come back and promising me we would be ok. I have been dating this guy for a little over 3 and half years and we got off to a rocky start a few months into our relationship when my ex decided all of a sudden after not speaking to me for 6 months just had to be back in my life and showed up at my house trying to talkI made a point to be sure to tell the current bf because I didnt want to lie to him, well because I was very open with him about my past relationships he was not to thrilled and since has had some major trust issues. Is this a faze Im going through triggered by the anxiety? I actually think that this could be a good thing for some couples, so that they do not waste any time on something that is not right for either one of them. Where do I turn from here? I need help. Thats how I use to be but I eventually swallowed my pride and Id just tell her how I feel. Which I agree with, but still feel its inappropriate for a married woman to be saying to another man. Do you think theres still a chance for us? She would tell people that I would always only be the stupid girlfriend nothing more because she would be the on,y wife he would ever have. Please know you are not alone. It took him a little longer but a couple of months later we were together. Im so confused, lonely and lost right now. At first he seemed calm and slightly compassionate. I would say hes left me a total of 15 or more times within our 10 year relationship. There are families where it happens and it is no big deal, but many other people do find it a big deal. We made appointment to go lay week Friday but instead she came to my house on Tuesday same week. . And i know shes ok and that i didnt create a problem for her. But you cannot be his therapist. I react with frustration and pain and tell her she is confused via text and never to contact me again. She was already rather fragile to begin with. Let him have a little fun since I cant right now. I was truly upset over that. No single flower. I didnt even want to buy that expensive house because I knew Id be in school and I didnt want him to become financially overwhelmed bit what do I know? Once I got into a huge fight with my parents and they even threatened to throw me out thats when I told him to come and pick me up because I was going to be kicked out anyways.. Why not show him this article and see if it makes an impact? The first 3 years were great. Its just the knowing he doesnt really like them as much that was making me feel guilty. I cant make him happy, he puts me down a lot, I always tell him to just be there for me when Im feeling down but he makes me feel like sh$t no matter what. Is that pushing him further away from me? Should I just forgive and forget? 5. I hurt and cry (even at work) when I stay away from him. But stopped complimenting me. For the first 5 years , we were great. I feel like ive moved on and have met an incredible woman and i really care for her deeply. But i became so emotionally attached to him and he made me feel secure wherever I talked to him. Other options. He met them and showed commitment. And just over a year since we first broke up. Ive hit rock bottom. I confronted him again. She felt she was constantly walking on egg shells out of fear of when she would do something that I would yell at her about. They can still be gentlemen and not blaming. I was so angry with him that I have said some hurtful things to him and made him cry. He litterly does nothing. I want to save the relationship. I REALLY Love this woman, I will do everything for her and I cant throw in the towel What should I do? I had already been through a couple of long and unsuccessful relationships which both failed because ultimately neither of those men treated me with respect and both of them ended up being abusive in the end of each relationshipand even through all of that I never cheated or disrespected them when I was in the relationship with them. Not a shared bottle of champagne to toast to our future. this is called true love . I need help ;( seriously. I know that she most likely will be happier without me since I caused so much damage to her, but I really want another shot at becoming the only one she loves. Hi Shena He is a married man. Just sex out of frustration and anger and an addiction to the feeling of being desired. Loving and hating someone at the same time is not necessarily a contradiction, but it does create profound emotional dissonance. What can I do and can you tell me why you think she is trying this and always keeps on bringing up divorce when we have these fights. I so wished I had NEVER said those words. Mom idealized the ex wife and son likely feels like a failure in moms eyes. she begged for almost 8 months but I was so focused on my ambition and career. If she still wont trust you, then you can go to couples counseling to re-build trust. Shes Scorpio. Be new, be interesting! Thank you for writing the article because it has given me a lot of hope and I long for the day when my wife and I have a solid supportive relationship again. Part two: How you feel about the other person. I know that hes very hurt by my actions, and it kills me that Ive hurt him. He gave a dry hi not even a kiss or hug. Even though you didnt actually cheat with this male friend, what you did sounds like spite and that is not healthy for a marriage. She keeps them bottled in. How can he get his feelings back? My ex got mixed up with prescription drugs. AND STILL SHE SAYS I DONT GET IT, SHE SAYS IM NOT UNDERSTANDING! Were on the same team!! You'll move on. He showed me true regret for his actions this weekend, but today, I am so scared. I think Ive been showing them that Ive changed, but I think he believes Im only acting like this because were not in a relationship. I dont think so. I figured I had to be that girl so if it happened again at least I didnt give my all. Therefore, while the degree will be a big help on the intellectual end of figuring out everything, the help the counselor gives is an emotionally safe and wise place to look at, heal, and improve feelings. i have the similar problem now with my gf. You ask what to do. Like in your article, Ive realized I need to allow him space and deal with what hes feeling before we can take the next step. I have seen brief conversation on fb saying that shes not in good terms with her baby father. since we have this money issues i dont demand something new to try with him, i let him know that i understand his situation. Id get so mad because shed play games with me and Id lose my head. Im interested: Whose idea was it in the first place to have the open relationship? Heres why: What you allude to in your childhood sounds like you experienced abuse. But I called her on Wednesday to make the plan for Thursday instead which she agreed. Please consider personal therapy with a trauma specialist. There are a couple of things in your letter that deserve a closer look. I was angry at her at first then went to begging all in the course of the same day. I feel very confused. We started dating and lasted 3 years and our families even met and spent time together and loved each other. Dont let them get away with their hurtful behavior. It felt like we lived in a safe nest away from the harshness of the world. What am I doing wrong.? But can she just leave me alone and move on with her life rather than torturing me emotionally?. He is a black hole of effort and emotion that will always need filling. But I am puzzled how you can talk about borrowing from my money when you are married and it is both your money. Ive been separated for over 2 years, and have been divorced for about 8 months. 2. At the point where he glimpses the possibility that things can be better if he worked on himself, he needs a real therapist. You just want to keep hating the person who has hurt you. Make a special time to just go out w/o talking about who will pick up the kids from soccer. He said he had not realized that and we discussed having a date night. I cant say it was all bad though he is an amazing father to our children, he has always loved me, and he changed a little every time and that always gave me hope. He keeps saying hes done even though I know hes not, and even though I am not doing any of the things I did in the beginning that hurt him. When she came back she began talking about me staying behind to see through the short sale on our home and eventually joining her up north. I love this woman with every ounce of my soul. However as much as I wanted to so we could be a family I physically and emotionally could not do it. Thank you so much for your praise, but I have to tell you: it is YOU who took it seriously and applied it. She was like a guy came last night and cause trouble and that he took her car key. Takeaway. He begged me to give him another chance,he acted different towards me as well and although i missed nothing about our relationship i decided to give it another try since i had never seperated from him before i thought this maybe the one thing that would make him change. On or around January 15 this year, she called me very early in the morning crying so bad that my heart shook because she never cried like that. she was so in love with me that i didnt realise that one day her feelings might fade.She says she has lost feelings for me but now ive learn to love her so much more.Is it possible for her to come back to me? He is with no one now . He cant read my emotions at times and mostly assumes Im mad for everything. I Have caused him so much pain and deep hurt. Hi Dr Deb . On IG, he was chatting up another too. Weve litterly been up all night talking and Ive cried so much that I have no tears left in my eyes. Its hard enough as it is. If it's convinced you that you never want to cheat again, then congratulations! He is very loud and comes with a whole load of annoying habits and thats even before you take into account his inability to emotionally connect. Are you not satisfied? I did this to prove to her and myself that I love her and she was enough for me and although I had made a mistake in the past , I wanted to be with her and her exclusively. Hes been begging for 2 wees now. We were intimate 3 and a half weeks ago. That day I had my son in my arms and I took him home with me. He dealt with my random emotions and violent acts of throwing or breaking household things. All you can do now is figure out how to be happy again. Do not let your emotions get the best of you and try to force your significant other to feel as certain way. She wants to see other people for now and hopefully in two years when things settle down and we can both get on our feet we can see where we in life and get back together. now he got a promotion in another city and the company provides living accommodation there for him so he only comes home every two weeks. I love him and i dont want to ever lose him. We have been together since we were 15yrs old and during that time he cheated. In which he barely worked anyways.. He will say it back if I say it first, and on the day I moved, he said it first a few times. Hi Helen, But this time. I met my sons father at a local gas station filling my tank omw to work. But not all else is equal. He has been wonderful and pays for everything he showers me with gifts, I see a sincere change in him but I cant drop my guard. In that time I was battling what I perceived as anger issues. I get so irritated myself that she wont tell me why she is irritated that I just keep asking get until she screams at me to leave her alone. sometimes crying myself to sleep and asking what happen to us.everytime i face him, i would hear the words he say.sadness really overwhelms me. But it is all out in the open now. Stand in their shoes. Wife dont have time to put in with all other thing.. Hello Dr. Deb I had a regret breaking up with my boyfriend at the time because I was receiving attention from someone else and it was the attention that I was missing from my boyfriend. Long story short. I know a part of him still wants me though :/ really depressed now :(, Ive been on both sides of the coin in your situation. Do you offer skype counceling? We fell madly in love and talked all the time about getting married etc etc. You will have to work hard on yourself to be a better person. I broke down and told her that I was tired of blaming everyone and everything on my behavior. Partner one fell out of love and no longer felt intimacy for a couple years. I am very worried that this whole thing happened for some unforeseen reason and we arent meant to be together in the end, but I truly love her am willing to try and fail to get her back many times to know that I have tried everything I could. I sincerely hope you dont mind I posted a link to TEDH article. Now my trust in him never recuperated so I checked his phone and found sext msgs to and from a coworker. Once he calmed down I was finally able to tell him why I sent that text. We really have to start giving what we missed to ourselves. This was very early in the morning. Dear Vilma. I am extremely hurt by this man. First of all, he doesnt even know how. It feels like repentance and remorseful thoughts and actions are not enough. I live in la area, she lives in Bakersfield and the only way she will let me see my son is if i come and stay with her and her mom but i sleep on the couch to see my son because if i dont i cant see my son and she wont let me take my son for the weekend. but few days ago we broke up. 15 First Date Ideas that Can Spark a Love Connection My answer is: Feeling can come back, but the process is backwards from the way it was the first time. He started to believe his only chance was going to France. And now heroin. In jan 3 this year she decided to end our relationship. I moved to my mothers the next day. Right now I dont even like or desire to have this man share a space with me & question whether love really does exist. My wife was self employed for 7 years and had serious ups and downs with her income. I was there for him through everything. And what can I do to make him trust me again? Luckily, there are clear similarities and differences between these two types of dynamics. He told me weve had great moments and maybe wed still have more in the future, that maybe the flame of passion would ignite again We slept together and it was wonderful, amazing as it always is. Im definitely not relationship counselor. An update to my story is that for a while my wife and I were doing really well and then the bottom fell out. Then he had a tendency to want to have sex and Id tell him O,you just want my body. Im feeling really anxious but this article has given me some hope. It . We had loaned her our 1 vehicle to her in the interim so that her mother & step-father could use her car. So, if I was off once he got off work I expected hed spend time with me but no all he did was sleep all day until he had to wake up and go to work later that night. You may find that if he finally commits, you will feel safer and you will not act that way. What would a real connection to someone feel like? The counseling should be goal-oriented, meaning, you should be given specific tools to rebuild your sense of self-esteem and overcome the destructive messages that you have inside. He doesnt see a problem with it and says it help the pain and his sleep. She got mad and asked me why I would do that and dont we both deserve to be happy if things cant be fixed. But Im hopeless now, because he was so good and I dont know if Ill be able to get him back. Since day 1 we have both been crazy about each other up until a few months ago where Ive started to suffer from anxiety. All these need to heal. He didnt even introduce me to the girl as his girlfriend. I just dont know what to do. Is what Im doing and planning on doing the most optimal way to go or no? I know he still loves me. We met over facebook neither of us looking for someone just one of those chance meetings hit it off completely, both incredibly similar when it comes to the deepest things but quite different on the outside. We started arguing and fighting everyday. Your spouse might be hurt, too. A male friend that ive known 17 years was visiting from out of state as his sister was in hospitali had lunch with him twice, both times letting my husband knowbut after the cancelled date for him to take here to the movies i was madi took a day off from work to clear my headi asked my male friend if he wanted to ride down to the beach with meafter swimming at the beach we went back to my parents camper to shower and get cleaned upi watched a little tv and when the show went off i went outside until my male friend was out of the shower and dressedand while i was showering and dressing he was outside on his phone but had come back in before i was done. Well my guy found out and he felt I didnt trust him and all hell broke lose, I got angry and to him where his mom his ex and he could go. bungalowstreet. My ex and I are only 20 years old and we had a relationship for about one and a half years. After the initial scare he did, but a month later he was back at it. That comes from the pain and mess he is in. Should I simply get over this? Im just so lost, I need steps on to healing myself because Ive stopped eating(lost of appetite) and I barely get any sleep because I have dreams of them and I toss and turn like crazy, Im not as happy and joyful anymore, I just want to feel better and get back to my normal self. What advice do you have? You are saying that he is home and wont let you come? Because your guard remains up (that was number one in this list), your powers of observation are keen, and you can see that something new is on the horizon. No more telling excuses to her. In order to have a meaningful relationship with another person, you need to be able to be yourself. Try also to work to support yourself and finish school. Is there anything I can do to try and save this? So, Im wondering if that is the case with your situation also. Thank you. To fall back in love, you have to start giving. He tells me all the time that I dont love him anymore and Im starting to see why. I pledged my love, life & faith to this man. Of course, I dont want him to stay out of duty, but I dont understand how were not even part of his choices. My BF and I have been together for 6 years have 2 kids together. It truly is possible to rebuild. And then left for her girlfriends house. He used excessive guilt and said he would change. Few days ago i was at the Mall when she called. Not sure what exactly I could do to try make amends, apologize and prove to her as she the girl I only want and I was dumb making a dumb choice in my part. He is trying hard to make time but the business doesnt give him a break. Eventually, I discovered that his actions did not change. I used it on my girlfriend for 9 months. There is so much that go into a marriage. When we are not happy or satisfied we seek it in whatever form we can find. He feels like I dont care about his feelings, which I do understand. The therapist even gave him an opening to walk away, close the door forever. He had been trying to give us another chance since March. Im not so clear on whats happening. It makes me feel special. Weve been having problems for the last year or more. I am in need of some advise, desperately. Weve had our share of problems. And n November. i just said all the bad words coz i felt negelected and i wanted him to know how i feel but eneded up abusing him. Heres the back story: She is 44 and came from a well off family. She puts it insecure. She completely closed down and said she was taking the time out of her life for me because she thought I was different; Completly Honest!! Things were going pretty well after that. we never got into a relationship before all of this because he has commitment issues, he has never had a girlfriend before. It outlined all of his feelings around the betrayal, even acknowledgement of his part in rejecting me. he tells me Im just being stupid and its just a film but I feel like if ur in a loving relationship there should be no need to feel like you need to look at anyone else sexualy. Hello. Do you think he needs time to digest. If your fiance is confused, there has to be a reason. Then in July I found out I didnt get into a grad program I had my heart set on. He pushes everyone away, has no friends and been hurt before. If the problem was religious, there is such a thing as repentance and forgiveness. Ankita Its hard to see things turning around but I really want it to. Pretty mean, because I felt hurt and duped and cheated. I only want to mend his hurt but it seems like I sabotage everything. She is doing study abroad for 4 months coming up. Im scared to be alone. You are not alone: It turns out that almost all of us have times when we strongly dislike the people we love the mostalthough some of us may not even realize it. Well during one argument, he asks me whos thing was bigger. The preceding article was solely written by the author named above. Im giving him another chance and the ball is in his court but its like hes not even trying to bite at the opportunity. Single. We struggled with this issue as one of our only fights over the course of 3-4 yrs. I see a future with her and she means the world to me. I just wonder if im being honest with myself and her about where i am emotionally. Another thing is, every choice I make about my future I always picture it with brad wether thats a job or what city I want to live in or even simple things. i am currently working on myself and stripping all the negative behaviors from my soul to avoid reoffending. Im so lost. But now he says he feels numb. He withdrew sex to the point of moving into the guest bedroom where he stayed for over a decade. Or at least on my end i provided what he lacked during those moment bc hr had females who could do that and more. But he says he feels guilty as he cannot give me more which I accept, our time together is lovely, its not only the sexual side, we get on really well we laugh, everything is great. Unlike Psychologists who say it is a big boundary crossing to see one or another person and the couple together, MFTs feel that is a helpful way to get to know each person as a person. And yet its ok to call me, etc. In a love-hate relationship, you love and hate each other with passion. I am so stupid!! Know who you are first, what you need in a dream partner, and be patient. I have three kids of my own 7 and undet who are not his and he has two 13 and 10. Your parents? He said he loves me but is not in love with me anymore but still cares about me. 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